Morgana Tsukiyo wrote:
Your adorable stuttering was like a beautiful flower amidst a grass field, and now it got plucked. What a shame.
Ms. Aubbes has spoken quite well for herself, and courteously. But I'm going to get out the knives for you, Morgana Tsukiyo.
For those of us who face an issue in our daily lives-- stuttering, pauses-- being singled out because of it is not a comfortable thing.
It's not a friendly
When you you say her stutter is, itself, "adorable," are you admiring her ideas? Her mind? You're not. You're "admiring" a problem that makes it hard for us to communicate effectively. A keen mind is threatening, but one that flounders when trying to communicate is not. It's cute. It's harmless
. When you point to that quality, you're pointing up a frailty, for your own amusement and others'. It's mockery, cloaked as admiration.
This might be arguable if you just found her troubles when speaking in person delightful, but the fact that you'd say she shouldn't even use of a medium where she can freely say exactly what she thinks, clearly and well, with all the eloquence she can muster, and be admired for it, means that it's not the mannerism you find attractive; it's the incapacity.
You like her helpless, and want her to stay that way. That you'd cloak that in terms of "embracing her whole self," accepting a limitation on her ability to communicate as a part who she is instead of using a method to make herself truly and fully heard, is a manipulative twist so awful that you've basically guaranteed I will trust nothing you have to say about anything, ever.
Ms. Aubbes owes me nothing. And after such a move I rather think you've nullified any debt she might have owed to you, as well.