I think that too many players obsess about this sort of metric - the fact that you’re not letting it direct you is very likely a good thing!
This, too, I think is wise. There is plenty of scope within Alpha to test out directions and options. While there are certainly a few things that are closed to Alphas from the start, most aspects can be trained quite far before further progress is gated behind that Omega symbol. Granted, your skill training is slower in Alpha mode, but if you’re patient, this isn’t an issue.
Personally and overall, I think you’re already off to a fine start in terms of your approach and outlook. I found that in this game, being in a hurry doesn’t pay, having patience does - at least, this has been true for me. Taking things slowly and taking the time to savour all aspects, and all stages (because once you’ve outgrown a particular level of advancement/experience, you can never return to it anyhow) has been very satisfying, while I see impatient types who want to be doing “end-game content” in their first week winding up frustrated.
This is excellent advice! Also, I would strongly advise manually (as there is not actual feature for this) backing up your settings folders - every now and then, for some obscure reason, some part may wig out on you and you may want/need to restore your layout. Having to reconstruct it from scratch is something that would have even Kojak pulling out his hair. (The folder in question lives under user_folder/AppData/Local/CCP/EVE/_something_with_sharedcache_and_tranquility/ - I periodically back up the folders with “settings” in their names, and have needed to restore them several time over the past year, the most recent occasion being just two days ago!)