Please Read Notes Below First…
I found a solution as i finally was able to connect.
Navigate to Windows Defender Firewall and select Advanced settings
Once here click inbound rules on the left hand side on the right hand side make a new rule
Select Port
( 1 )Make TCP and Specific Local Port
( 2 )Allow the Connection
( 3 )Select what suits. “I left mine all selected”
next name the Rule ie: eve port 5222 TCP or something.
Important steps
Redo step 1 -2- 3 and make UDP
Then Select Outbound Rules, Redo 1-2-3.
Once done Right Click one of the inbound Rules you made.
Select Properties
Select Programs and Services. " make sure it is linked to evelauncher.exe "
Please note
This works for me
I had to also allow the chat addresses through my Antivirus.
Setup a Static IP to be able to port forward. “really not sure if I had to or not”