I recommend joining a corp. You can find ones that don’t have any activity requirements, so you will be free to chose your participation level. Plus, you will have access to their stuff (stations, markets, JF services, jump bridges, shared knowledge).
I know a lot of people complain about the blue donut, but I think how big of a problem it is depends a lot on where you live and who you join. For example, we had so few neuts making it all the way out to us when I lived down a dead end string of systems along the edge of New Eden, that I’d sometimes have play sessions where not one single neut was reported in the intel channel. And when I lived one gate away from lowsec, I didn’t have room to whip my dick out without hitting a neut. Besides, some player groups are all about having as few blues as possible anyway.
So I think the main thing is trying to find a group that works for you. Given your interests, you might want to start by looking into FW corps.