I absolutely agree with what you wrote except the demise.
If you look at the “EVE is pay2win opinion camp” here at forums it is me, Karak, Destiny and maybe DeMichael Crimson? There is nobody else who would even oppose you and neither of us fits your premise about lazy players seeking instant gratification.
We simply want things to be named their right names, is all. I really don’t care about EVE being pay2win, I am addicted to the non-consensual and unfair pvp this games offer and no amount of pay2win CCP adds will make me stop playing it. I can care less that someone bought a 5% dmg booster for cash, it is pay2win mechanic, but so what? I can always overwhelm him with numbers and beat him anyway. And even if I couldn’t I don’t care I just find weaker victim and satisfy my bloodthirst on that.
The way I see it, it is exactly the opposite. Weak, lazy players who seeks instant gratification has no problem with pay2win (until you tell them that them spending 42€ on Master Bundle is pay2win, then they get mad af ). It is hardcore players who has because their efforts and dedication becomes meaningless when it can be bought by the cash. The comedy video above sums it pretty nicely. Altara’s replies and arguments also.
BTW you are saying that EVE has a bad name and is slandered for pay2win. I don’t really see that. All these TOP MMOs of year articles are very neutral and doesn’t mention any of the EVE’s issues. I don’t read reddit so can’t talk about that. And nobody reads forum before trying EVE (and neither of us four is starting a threads about EVE being pay2win and slandering EVE either), and steam reviews are overall positive and in between negative reviews I didn’t find single mention of pay2win. Few players complained about paywall to access better ships, but that is not the same thing. So I really don’t know where you are coming from with this.
This thread actually shows that vast majority of the player base has no issues with EVE and doesn’t even consider it pay2win because. I don’t think that new players’ opinion on EVE is going to be that different. As was already mentioned above, apparently every other MMO on market has similar pay2win mechanics to the point it became a norm and peoples no longer even sees that as pay2win.