Griefing is a fun term I learned from Minecraft. In that game, one would grief another player by destroying blocks they placed, placing blocks in another player’s territory, or generally obstructing another player’s progress.
I find it curious that this term appears in EvE. Griefing, in Minecraft, was always an intended feature, but was set directly against the implicit goal of the game: creation. Therefore, a griefer, set on destruction, would be directly opposed to the implicit goals of the game, which would be creation.
In EvE, however, no such implicit goal of creation exists. If anything, the implicit goal of creating something in EvE is explicitly to destroy it.
To me, this OP is not an example of griefing. This sounds like business as usual and if I were a betting man, I’d say OP asked for the trash talk by starting some of his own. Whether or not OP intended to trash talk is irrelevant-- establishing comms with the enemy who is pwning you without recourse seems… pathetic.
There’s my two cents. Adjust your expectations or go play No Man’s Sky (which I have been thoroughly enjoying).