That you say this of a Sundsele clanswoman proves to me beyond any doubt that your love for her is a compromising factor and moreover that you do not care if it is or not, what she is or is not.
You are, at best, also blinded by love, and, if not that, then a manipulative Amarrian preacher pushing your religion on people under the guise of romance and friendship and individualism. Either you understand nothing of her culture and don’t care to, or you choose to ignore it and impose your own. Neither speaks well of you as a lover.
Melisma spoke about shooting you. No one else did.