Citation needed.
Sure, but a person’s own lack of self-control doesn’t shift responsibility and accountability of the insults that come out of their mouth nor excuse their behavior. Perhaps it is relatable in a sympathetic kind of way, but long ago societies figured out that “make two wrongs” isn’t productive. This is precisely why I started the GM's holding strangers accountable for toxic behavior thread, because even in Low Sec when I kill someone I – not often, but not zero – get convo’d and then receive a lot of aggressive remarks from the other party. Their behavior is not my fault and I should not be held accountable for their personal flaws.
Ah, FYI, you and Kezrai (in this post Player Count - #118 by Kezrai_Charzai) would have a lot in common.