Yup. Totally correct. I’ve done absolutely nothing of note. Ever. I am no-one and nothing, of no importance whatsoever.
And yet… if I am so insignificant, why can that question not be answered?
It’s really funny that you claim I don’t allow this. In fact, that’s exactly what I advocate: Find your own way. And even as Samira clicks ‘like’, she knows that’s exactly what I’ve done with her. Ask her about days spent talking in her apartment about whether she should trust the declarations of corrupt officials in higher office over her own feeling of right and wrong, as informed by her own understanding of God.
Samira believes. Samira believes sincerely, and she is more than up to the task of holding firm in her faith through any pitiful challenge I can offer it. Which is as it should be. She has her way, and whatever doubts or difficulties she encounters, I believe she will come through it intact, and knowing that she has made the choices she felt were right, because she knows herself, and she knows what she believes.
Ange, by comparison, was a devotee of James315, and as she so publicly stated, found herself adrift and looking for something to latch onto. That sort of conversion does not result in someone knowing themselves, being secure in themselves. It results in someone who is crippled and stunted, whose self-worth is tied up in the cause they have converted to, and in their zealotry. And if left in that state, when eventually faced with questions they can neither dodge nor resolve, it leaves people broken. It leaves them questioning their self-worth and everything they have ever believed to be the right or wrong course. It does irreparable damage. Which is why, in her thread, I warned her about that possibility.
If she decides to believe in the Amarr god because she truly believes, that’s great. That’s absolutely fine, and good for her. She’s got a built-in community of support and she has sincere beliefs to live her life by.
But if she’s just latching on to a life preserver tossed to her by a man whose livelihood is convincing people to submit to his authority and the authority of those above him in the faith… then she will, eventually, break. She will break hard, and she will be harmed in ways she can never recover from—just as she was with James315 and CODE. So should I simply let her do that? I’ve watched that destroy a friend of mine, someone who eventually ended up seeking her own death because she couldn’t reconcile the inconsistencies anymore. Should I turn a blind eye to that process beginning in someone else?
Or should I offer her the hard questions now, so she can overcome them and examine her faith with full awareness of them going in? So she is not blindsided by these concerns, but instead can, in fact, find her own way?
A mission to see that people cannot find meaning in their lives? Not allowing people to find their own way?
Nothing could be farther from the truth. If I held Ange in contempt, I wouldn’t bother. If I held Samira in comtempt, I would not consider her the closest thing I have ever had to a sister. She is one of my closest friends—and one of the only people I trust completely. And if I say something that she thinks is beyond the pale, I trust her to grab me by the scruff of the neck, one on one, and tell me to knock it the hell off… because she has done so in the past, and because she knows the regard in which I hold her.
But you, who admit to knowing nothing of any depths about me? Your willingness to pass judgment without any discussion at all… now that reeks of contempt.