Honestly, the best way to “figure things out” is to go out and start talking with people.
Try mining or exploring a bit, build up some ISK and chat with other explorers you come across (or on the forums).
Once you have enough ISK, buy up a bunch of ships you fully intend to blow up, fit them up, and go out to PvP a bit. Talk with the people who kill you. Ask for their advice.
Try everything! And build those connections!
In this game, those connections with other players will take you further than 100 million skillpoints ever could.
You don’t need to be “perfect” in any way.
Just have a good attitude and a sense of humor.
If people want you to be “perfect” in some way before you can hang with them, then you are better off not making that connection.
In fact… take their name(s) down, get good (and/or friends), and then go after them.
“Revenge is a dish best served cold.”