Moving this here…
And that, too, is a reaction. Getting angry at someone for being (in your opinion) wrong is a reflection of who you are, not them. Everyone’s wrong sometimes. Being mad at them for being something, whether being a moralizer and demagogue or a slaver, is really a reaction to internal displeasure.
For example, when I get mad at Aria for defending slavers, I’m getting angry because I haven’t been able to right what I see as an injustice in the cluster. I’m mad at my inability to make the change I feel needs to be made, and externalizing that onto Aria as the representation of that inability: If I were able to enact that change, Aria wouldn’t be a reminder of the things that I don’t like.