You have several points which are important because it is your story. Which is all true for you and I’m sorry you feel this way.
Sadly in real life, we do not live in the StarTrek Universe, on a Federation planet where money does not exist, and we all can follow our hearts and wishes sanscash. Some of you are IRL space rich, so this does not apply to you.
The game is run by a company, which needs to pay their staff, who run the servers, buy equipment and pay electricity bills etc.
Some people have cleverly (which is easy as the player base is incredibly intelligent) found way to PLEX their accounts, reducing the cash flow but increasing the demands on CCP’s Corp wallet.
Now, by getting new players in to replenish the corp wallet is a great idea, and you may argue about the execution. (I would like to see more ads BTW, especially attached to all those youtube, streamers etc.) But they have done a good job.
A few things you said didn’t make sense. If you are concerned about tidi, why are you there? There are so many places you can be alone-ish in EVE. Check dotland.
The sandbox name at the time EVE was created was used. But many games and time may have changed that. And after 15 years it should be celebrated not admonished.
Gang mentality, it doesn’t take an average IQ of an EVE player to figure out, that there is safety in numbers. I have seen some weird bullying mechanics allowed to play out. And yes it will eventually be one blue donut.
For PVPers it will be a like being in a Nightmare(without cap) - for carebears like myself that would be awesome.
I would like to hear your suggestions as to how to make EVE more sand-boxy, without breaking it. Yes, it is more like kitty litter because you need to have EVE type blocks to create an EVE type universe. As to what size you would like the blocks to be should provide something to reach for. Perhaps then the kitty litter looked like sand then, but that’s progress.
It would be interesting to be able to create new types of ships, from the ground - The t3 cruisers come close, and are very sandlike. We already now have a random way to create new types of modules.
Perhaps a constructive proposal to CCP will help. I have a few Feature requests. ;'D try one.