There is more to it than what you are describing, but if that has been your experience, then it is understandable that you would be bitter. Maybe you’ll think about it for a while and come to a different perspective. Maybe not.
I’ve spent weeks alone, scanning, jumping, doing the odd site, snagging the odd kill, taking cool screenshots and talking with strangers. Some of the funniest and most interesting things and conversations have happened when just randomly going where the wind took me.
If I picked up some nice loot I’d just dump it at the next station and move on. My assets are a mess, but meh.
I can recommend it heartily. All it takes is a cloaky and an adventurous spirit.
Eve is definitely not a fast-paced game, but I can tell you with a certainty that a lot of the problems you’re describing have more to do with the fact that you don’t know what to do, nor how to do it just yet.
With a little bit of guidance from more experienced players you would have a far easier go of it. Have you looked at any of the new player corporations?