Hmm, well, I’m all for civility and reasoned debate.
That said, I question the OP’s approach of “Hey, we want to victimize and abuse you and cause you loss and setbacks in-game, but really, we must insist that you be polite and civil to us in return. And it truly hurts us and ‘brings down the tone of the community’ when you respond to your victimization with anger.”
And to follow that up with: oh look, it’s the victims who are being the bad guys here, not us noble ‘elite’ warriors. Especially when there’s plenty of examples of PvPers dishing out exactly the same.
Honestly, one has to assume the OP is just another bit of ‘holier than thou’ virtue-signalling and troll bait rather than a believable stance.
Yes, EVE is a game of conflict. Yes, ganking is part of it. Yes, people should try to rein in their anger and vehemence when they’re faced with the unpleasant side of the mechanics of the game they’ve chosen to play. And sure, it’d be more productive for them to either learn to manage risk in EVE or move on to another game.
That said, if you’re the kind of player that gets off on causing loss, harm and setbacks to other players, and further to “mine salt” as is so often the actual case, then grow some friggin’ balls, man up and accept it when a little harsh invective comes your way.
EVE is supposed to be a game where your choices matter and have consequences. Being a ganker is one of those choices.
“For they have sown the wind , and they shall reap the whirlwind.” EVE may be ‘special’ in the many ways it allows players to be a dick. But being a dick isn’t consequence-free and you don’t get to say “I want to be an a-hole to you but you should be polite and reasonable to me in return.”
People shouldn’t be going overboard with personal attacks, that’s a given. Nor should they be going insane over some pixel losses in a pixel game. The proper response to someone struggling with that kind of anger is to show them ways to deal with it or leave it behind.
Not smacking them with a stick and then stand back smugly saying “Gosh guys, why so angry? It’s just a game.”