That’s not good enough, I guess? 
Here’s ways how it’s being done:
- Suicide gank young players and contact them afterwards.
- Find jetcan miners, steal their ore and let them attack you.
- Probe down mission runners, steal loot and let them attack you.
- Hunt explorers.
All you need to do is playing the game and contacting your victim afterwards. You just need to be a bit more picky about your targets. Tell you what, today I was in lowsec mining and got blown up by some guy who contacted me five minutes later, asking me if i was looking for a job.
Literally had a case of what you are talking about, today.
I’m not up to date on this thread. Plenty of people seem to have answered your question already, one way or another. There’s a few spineless cowards and losers, as always. While such exist, assuming that most people are spineless cowards and losers is silly.
Do you need help, or support?