This post and thread have 2 purposes:
Mainly to support gank victims in the aftermath of getting ganked, with positive input and advice. As such, I hope it will be linked to victims who need it. NOTE: I will report harassment, stalking, trolling and off topic trash in this thread, as useless as it may be to do so. To pilots reporting their gank here, be warned. There are those who will ignore the thread purpose and grief you!
Secondarily to be a guide for new pilots so they understand ganking enough before experiencing it, or better yet, avoid it.
First of all, it is important to understand that you are not alone. Every single day, many pilots get ganked all over New Eden. Next, I want you to understand that the situation with ganking is more complicated than what most people will tell you. So please be patient as you read this.
The next thing I want you to know is that its VITAL you listen to and engage with the right people. For some gankers the PRIMARY motive for ganking is to cause you grief. Emotional exchanges where they get to cause you MORE grief is a positive delight for them. Do not engage. They are waiting for you…hoping for you to join in chat with them. That said, for some gankers it is just a secondary motive. Nonetheless, the result is the same. They know how to grief you, they often grief you in gangs, and they know their game. You will likely NOT make them feel bad. The more you express your grief, the more they will laugh. So talk only to people who want to help you (corp mates for example) and NEVER to those who just ganked you, at least not until you are in full control of your emotions AND know their game. That said, if some gankers are not griefers at all is something I will leave for others to decide on their own. Regardless, some gankers ARE griefers, and they will grief you even here on the forum too if they can. Remember the bullies from school? That is the very type some gankers are. They will never change and remorse is not in their vocabulary. Don’t feed those trolls.
The next thing I want you know is that whether the ganking situation is complicated by design or by accident, I do not know for sure. But its ALL here to stay, and the complexity generates misunderstanding, and the misunderstanding benefits the gankers. I advocate for removing some of the complexity, however, I cannot say I have had any progress thus far. In my view, you should not accept any blame on yourself for any confusion. Not only because it is all complex and information is scattered, but also because gankers are active in maintaining the confusion, and there can be little doubt they will post below this post in an attempt to keep you confused.
Next, don’t let anybody tell you that you and you alone are to blame for getting ganked, or even mostly to blame. That is false. The first to blame is the people who decided, among all the things to do in this sandbox game, to go around ganking people. They chose, not you. That said, there are a TON of ways to avoid ganks, so it is generally true that you COULD have avoided the gank and CAN prevent future ganks. Other threads detail how so I won’t go into that. But take heart. You can recover and you can do better.