Iâd guess the âdesireâ roadblocks you run into are due to the mismatch between your expectations and the various outcomes. The base expectation on your part appears to be that if you come up with a good plan and execute it reasonably well, then you should be fairly assured it will work.
The problem is that EVE is broad enough with enough situations that youâll often miss some detail or some crucial second of timing and the plan falls apart and you get nuked. âThe best-laid plans of mice and menâ etc. And so far, youâve been using that as an indicator that âthe game is no fun, time to stop playingâ.
You made a series of risk assessments here that didnât work in your favor. You envisioned a plan that basically required perfect execution at all times (boxing 10 ships for high profit in dangerous space). You decided to put your âIâm back a few weeksâ level of skills up against the people who hunt that space 24/7. You offered a juicy target and then reacted somewhat predictably (you moved, but you kept doing the same thing, even after the alert went out).
You planned for a bit too much, too fast, because an opportunity presented itself and you wanted to maximize your results. In cases like that, sometimes you might get lucky and it will work out, but your plan appears to have required decent luck to hold out for a couple weeks of play.
Youâve seen Gerardâs very good explanation as well as points made by others, so you know âthe mechanics are unfairâ isnât really the issue here. The primary issue is that you bit off more than you can chew, broke a tooth on it, and are feeling the double pain of both the loss and your knowledge that really, this is your own fault (several of your points in your OP show this underlying feeling).
Your attitude should be more along the lines of âOkay, hereâs the plan, but I realize itâs quite risky and requires constant fast attention, so Iâm basically writing these ships off when I undock. The hope is that they at least pay for themselves before I get blown up, but even that wonât always happen. And I have an alternate plan in place if things look too hot, rather than simply moving to a different nearby space and continuing on.â
If the game is only fun for you when you come up with a high-risk/high-reward plan and it works out profitably, then EVE is guaranteed to disappoint. The expectation of some loss should be in the plan from the start, as well as how youâll respond to shifting levels of risk.