You should read the above quote and think about it. EVE is a game of emergent/spontaneous order, that is people do things that the Devs never intended…and that’s okay (so long as it is not game breaking like tracking titans). In other words, if a player comes along and figures out a way to do something based on the mechanics…its generally fine as Shah Fluffers post indicates.
Now, what happened to you was in no way game breaking. You basically did something foolish (most likely unwittingly) and it ended badly for you. Learn from it.
When under a war dec do not undock in a blingy ship.
When under a war dec keep in mind various timers in terms of limitations they put on you.
If you want to minimize war decs avoid the various trade hubs and trade lanes, that is where most war dec players live. If you have to go there go on an alt (your account has 3 slots, use one of them for this).
There is a bunch more for you to learn too and I would recommend looking into finding those who can help you learn about the game and its mechanics. Seek them out.
Stop arguing to make fundamental changes to the nature of the game. You’ll gain only a few friends that way and they won’t be friends you can count on, IMO.