I will readily concede this point. The vast majority just up and leave cause (whatever non extenuating reasons) and I know nothing about the OP other than what’s in his post.
CHOICE! That is the very point I bring up! Choice! One can in real life set up contingencies on the possibility that X happens. Hence the suggestion I make as a possible change that I feel address both sides of the coin. I’ll quote myself here in case you didn’t see it.
I want things to be in the players hands. Both the one that leaves and the one that stays. I want consequences to stay a part of EVE! If one has some settings that they just ignore and they default to “items stay wherever they are and drop just like other loot” then those who don’t take the time to prepare for (life) have to live with life while those that make a decision still have possible fallout from their choices as item moving is in the hands of the players. Hell the items may even get hauled farther away than in the current system but end up costing the player much more than it would otherwise. I mean it could even be that if the player doesn’t have enough ISK to pay for the courier the contract wont get posted and if the player has the ISK in wallet that it directly comes out of the wallet to post the contract. I see possible game play coming out of this.
Mostly. I feel like the last two paragraphs are about a slightly related issue but not necessarily the issue the OP brings up or that I zero onto here. I feel the issue is the sense of punishment that comes from having to buy your items back. I feel like the sense of punishment is from the lack of choice on what happens to ones items. I know that you say one has their choice when they left the game for an extended period of time but that is very much something that can be outside of ones control even though I agree that for the vast majority it’s just because of stupidity. That is not to say that the system can’t be improved. I like to think that my suggestion is an improvement. Are you open enough to look at the pros and cons of possible changes? Are you open to seeing if there is a better solution than what I suggest? Are you open to real conversation?