Your way to salty, and as much as I love reaping salty tears you need to realize that ecm isn’t op as you think. Can it change the flow of any fight sure, but it’s impact is only truly noticable as fleets get smaller.
You want to know why ECM is balanced, because it’s chanced based. It’s not like damp, disrupters, webs, scrams, or points that land 100%. Always go off, #guaranteed.
A keres can shutdown frigates, dessies, and even cruisers.
A curse can kill a mach using the disrupters and neuts/nos all while laughing all while the drones chew through it.
Also they tend to have better tank cuz caldari is shield and ewar takes mids
Just food for thought.