I am one of those people. It’s good that you take a humble approach and admit you wonder why. I can explain it for my part.
I’ve lived in J-space, null, low, and now live in high sec. I work a job where I can get called upon anytime during the day or night, and I have to log off and handle work. I cannot be taking the time to shut down comms, finding a safe spot, and safe-logging my ship. And, I don’t really like safe-logging an expensive ship I will get no SRP for in foreign space because I am viewed as having quit the fleet and abandoning my post. I can’t commit to anything. I have to be able to leave any time.
I am a father of two kids, and if the Mrs. says “Honey, take out the trash,” while she is cooking me dinner, I am leaving the fleet, safe logging, and I take out the trash. I value her more than my game time. If I am in the fleet and guests knock on the door - sales people, religious nuts, the amazon guy, the termite guy, the yard guy, some contractor we hired - I answer the door. Not her. It’s how we work. I am dropping fleet.
The bottom line is not PVP or carebearing for me. I prefer PVP. The bottom line is that you people who play this game are the least important thing in my life. I will log off to walk the dog.
My life has many demands. Eve is there for me when I feel like seeing space ships fly around. Back when I had time for CTA’s and PAP’s, it was fun. That’s not going to be part of my life now.
So when I play Eve, I enjoy building new ships, flying them around and shooting rats with them. I enjoy getting in my Helios and stealing your relic and data sites. I enjoy collecting ship skins. But as a lone player, I cannot PVP against a group, and I cannot commit to a group, so that isn’t going to happen.
That’s how it is. That’s why I play Eve. It has the best enemy AI of any single-player game: you. I enjoy the danger of ganks. I love slipping through gate camps. I love it when you decloak on a can I am working and I either get caught or get away.
That’s why I play.