The Self-Help Thread

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Miss the days when you could just view ignored content. :thinking:

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Zaera wants an automatic self destruct.

Anyone that flags one of her posts automaticlly self destructs

self-destruct-self-destruction

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I had someone tell me to stop procrastinating. Then advised me to watch a series of youtube videos on why people procrastinate.. :man_facepalming:

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Then they have these clips about “Procrastination isn’t your fault, it’s because of depression blah blah…”

They never procrastinate when it’s time to find an excuse.

Want to end your Procrastination? It’s simple: get off your butt!

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The reason these days for not moving. I am retired and will move when I am good and ready. Unless it is the wife. Then I will move.

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Aallin’s wife: Get off your butt and pop some Calderi you lazy bum!!!

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If you’re retired then I imagine you can move whenever the hell you want. My dad is retired too, and on disability. I always bring his coffee in bed because I figure he did it himself for at least 40 years and so I figure he earned it.

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Life is a videogame, here’s why:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DOOifKrkb0z/

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Rise and shine! :sun: It’s a brand-new day full of endless possibilities, but let’s be real—people can really push your buttons from the get-go. Whether it’s a coworker, a family member, or the morning traffic, there’s always something out there ready to raise your blood pressure. But here’s the trick to keeping your sanity intact: stay hydrated, ignore the stress, and just keep going!

Sometimes, the best way to tackle the day is with a good sip of water and a deep breath. Let’s face it—life can be stressful, but who says you have to let it get to you? Let today be all about embracing the calm, brushing off negativity, and staying focused on what really matters—your peace of mind. Hydration + ignoring the drama = a recipe for a successful, chill day. :smiling_face_with_sunglasses:

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Zaera’s take on life is simple - have fun !!!

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@LordOdysseus nice thread, I hope people who need to read this will find it. Many of us pretend to be cruel villains and some don’t know when to pause. Other get very upset at this and other games meant to be amusements. I did view the “Rules of Success” video and agree you need a goal in the game as you need goals in the real world. My goal is to have fun.

Some people who have egos as fragile as egg shells, should really never play PvP. I would not like to see a highly impressionable person to play violent games ever. There are some games that don’t fit well with people’s psychological makeup.

Have fun!

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There are some games that fit well with people’s psychological makeup

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@Princess_Rose_Ivory Thank you. I hope the same for people who need it to find it.
My intention when I created this thread was and still is to inspire people and to encourage them to contribute to the thread.
Development of the thread is encountering its severe limitations in order not to advertise for self-help products. While I was writing this reply I had an “Eureka!” moment and I now have an idea that might just work without advertising products.

I also strongly urge everyone to watch that “Rules of Success” video. Because what and how Arnold did when he was younger was, in my opinion, the quickest and easiest way to roaring success.

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The basic Blueprint of the Structure of Existence
The 5 Basic Laws of Creation

These 5 Basic Laws are true Everywhere/Everywhen in the universe -
including ALL dimensions.

1 You exist. (I AM)
2 Everything is Here/Now.
3 The All is one, and the One is all.
4 What you put out is what you get back.
5 The only constant in the universe is change -
except for the first 4 postulates, which never change.

1 You exist. (I AM)
If you exist now, your existence is eternal:
You have always existed and you always will exist. You may change form,
but you are existing always . So…relax…you’ll be around forever.

2 Everything is Here/Now.
Time and Space are illusions. (But your experiences within Time/Space are “real”.)
There is only Here/Now.

3 The All is one, and the One is all.
Just as each tiny section of a hologram contains the information for the entire
hologram, likewise we are all inter-connected. The part contains the Whole.
Everything is truly just one totally-interconnected “thing”.

4 What you put out is what you get back.
The “outside” is a reflection of the “inside”.
Physical reality is actually a 3-dimensional holographic mirror:
Your physical reality is just a holographic reflection of
what you most strongly believe to be true. And like a mirror, physical reality
will not change unless you change first (change what you most strongly believe).

5 The only constant in the universe is change -
except for the first 4 postulates, which never change.
So…might as well get used to eternally-changing Creation.
Enjoy the ride! Surf the changes!

You all probably heard the saying “follow your bliss” or “follow your joy”. The saying doesn’t mean much on its own, also can be misintrepeted as “hedonism” and “egoism”. But below is the full formula to what it in fact really is.

The Formula
The Essassani “Instruction Manual”

This formula is the concentrated distillation of all the Essassani wisdom of “how life works” into one simple formula.
This is not philosophy or religion. This is based on the physics of how reality actually works.

#1. Act on your Excitement, your Passion - whatever is most exciting to you - in the moment. Do this every moment that you can.
(Excitement is your Higher Self, pointing you in a particular direction, hoping you move in that direction.U)

#2. Do this to the best of your ability. Take it as far as you can go - until you can not take it any further.
(Make sure your beliefs are not causing you to dampen your excitement ahead of time.)

#3. Act on your Excitement/Passion with absolutely no insistence or assumption or expectation of what the outcome should be.
Very often the ideal outcome will not be what you expect or intend.
Your Higher Self knows the ideal outcome, but your physical mind can not really know that in advance.

#4. Choose to remain in a positive state - regardless of what happens.
If something undesireable happens, by remaining in a positive state even then, you are able to gain some positive benefit from that situation.
If you remain in a positive state, you can discover HOW it can serve you in a beneficial manner.
Any circumstance is actually neutral, with no built-in meaning. You deteremine whether it has a positive or negative effect,
based on the MEANING that you PROJECT into that fundamentally-neutral situation.

#5. Constantly investigate your belief systems, and release & replace the unpreferred beliefs:
* The fear-based beliefs you might have.
* And the beliefs that are not in alignement with who you prefer to be.

FOLLOWING THIS FORMULA - as precisely as you can - activates synchronicity which is the organizing principle of the entire universe.
(Synchronicity is the “networking” and coordination of all parts of the universe with each other - through the one Universal Mind.)
And so, by activating this synchronicity, automatically, things in your life flow more naturally, pleasantly, and desirably for you - and in perfect timing.

“Receiving” the Reality you Desire

A radio does not have to create the program it wishes to hear. It merely needs to receive an already-existing program. And it makes itself an effective receiver by matching frequencies, synchronizing frequencies - creating a similarity of vibrations - with the program it wishes to receive.

Likewise, you don’t have to create the reality you desire, because it already exists - among the infinite probable realities all simultaneously co-existing. All you have to do is make yourself an effective “antenna”, so that by similarity of vibrations, you can receive that reality. And this makes it physiologically “real” for you.

First, you have to be that vibration. Then, you automatically receive that reality.

You must “see” the reality you prefer as now existing in the moment. Then, it will become tangible in your outer reality.

A radio uses a channel tuner to select & receive any one particular station - out of all the programs that are simultaneously existing all around the radio.

Likewise, there are infinite probable realities that we could “receive” and experience at any moment. How do we select which one of these we wish to “pull” to the foreground to experience ?

We select and receive specific “versions” of reality by our beliefs.
We select and receive by our 100% trust in “what we know is so”.

Useful metaphor:

Let’s say you have many light bulbs - each of a different color. By themselves, each light bulb can not light up - until it is screwed into a socket. The socket provides the energy to “activate” the colored light bulb.
Without the socket, the colored light bulbs can do nothing.

Well, each belief is like a light bulb. And YOU are the socket (the energizng source that “activates” any particular belief ).

So, if you wish to change your belief, imagine unscrewing that belief (disconnecting its energy source) from its socket (YOU and YOUR ENERGY).
And then imagine screwing in your preferred belief into that socket.(thus activating it with YOUR ENERGY)
It’s that easy.

Just remember:
By itself, each belief has no energy and can do nothing.
The belief only “activates” when YOU energize it with YOUR energy.
And YOU and ONLY YOU get to select which belief you wish to energize.

Here’s the “physics” of how this works:

Just as a radio must first vibrate at a particular frequency in order to “receive” the one particular broadcast (from all of the possible simultaneous broadcasts) that happens to be vibrating at that same frequency, likewise…

Each belief gets you vibrating at a unique set of frequencies.
These frequencies then attract, by sympathetic resonance, those holograms vibrating
on the same frequencies.

That is, out of the “background” universal matrix of infinite possible holograms (all of the infinite possible “versions” of reality that are simultaneously existing), those holograms and symbols that synchronistically vibrate at the same frequencies as the frequencies of your belief, get “pulled out” from this matrix and “received” by you as the actual “external physical experiences” that you then sense as “real” - that you sense as “objective reality”.

So each belief is a unique set of frequencies which is a template that determines which holograms you attract into your experience.

What we believe and totally “trust to be so”, sets up the alignment from which we receive that particular “version” of reality. This trust or “knowing” is the mechanism by which creation takes place. Without believing, we would create no reality and be non-existent. At every given moment, we are always totally believing something.

All possible “versions” of your reality already exist. In fact, they are all here - right under your nose - right Here, right Now. However, most of these “versions” are invisible to us, and they become “visible” only when we “tune” ourselves (via our beliefs), to be compatible and resonant with the frequencies of any one particular “version”. Furthermore, since Time is only a local “illusion” that does not really exist, everything you ever hope to “become” or “attain”, you have already become and attained. If it’s “invisible” to you, that’s only because your beliefs do not yet have you vibrating in a manner that is synchronous with those versions. You contain it ALL - all possible “versions”. And all these here/now versions are in various states of visible/invisible for you, depending on your beliefs relative to any particular version. You “see” and “objectively experience” the versions that are synchronized with how you are vibrating, and it’s your beliefs at any given moment that determine how you are vibrating.

Misconception: “Seeing is Believing” (What we perceive determines what we believe.)
The Actuality: “Believing is Seeing” (What we believe determines what we perceive!)

So, don’t wait to perceive it before you start believing it!
Believe it first, and then you will perceive it accordingly.

Beliefs ==> Perception ==> Interpretation ==> Emotional reaction ==> Thoughts ==> Action

  1. Your beliefs determine the reality that you perceive. Your beliefs determine your perception of reality.

  2. You then immediately, automatically, (and usually unconsciously) interpret your perception of reality.
    That is, you (arbitrarily) assign, project, and “superimpose” an interpretation onto your perception of reality.

  3. You then emotionally react to your interpretation of that reality.

  4. You then have thoughts about this reality.

  5. Then, based on your emotions and thoughts, you take action.

Beliefs ==> Perception ==> Interpretation ==> Emotional reaction ==> Thoughts ==> Action

When you are watching television and the current program displeases you, you do not try to change or transform that program. Instead, you simply choose another program that you do prefer.

Likewise, if the reality you are experiencing displeases you, you do not need to “change” or “transform” that reality. You only need to choose another version of reality to “receive”, by synchronizing your vibrations with the “version” of reality you do prefer to experience. It already exists. All you have to do is “receive” it. You select the “channel” you’re watching in life.

TO CHANGE THE OUTSIDE, CHANGE THE INSIDE.

TO MAKE IT EVEN EASIER:

To be technically accurate,

People do not “create” their reality.
They “select” it and “allow it in”.

As an analogy,
A TV set does not “create” the program it’s displaying. It just “selects” it and “allows it in”.
A radio does not “create” the radio program it’s playing. It just “selects” it and “allows it in”.

Realizing this, it should make it feel even EASIER to create/select/allow the version of reality you wish to experience,
because

YOU DON’T HAVE TO CREATE THE VERSION OF REALITY YOU WANT!
IT ALREADY EXISTS!
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS “SELECT” IT AND “ALLOW IT IN”!

All possible version of reality already all exist! (When they say God is Infinite, they’re not kidding.)

YOU DON’T HAVE TO CREATE the version of reality you wish to experience.
IT ALREADY EXISTS! It’s happening RIGHT NOW - on some other parallel reality-track.
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS “SELECT” IT AND “LET IT IN”!

3 Phases for receiving the “version” of reality you prefer:

  1. See it. (mental)

Visualize it. Imagine it. Daydream it. Visualize it clearly. You don’t need to visualize it for a long time. Short time is sufficient, but you need to visualize it clearly. You need to have a solid clear picture. Visualizing it creates the blueprint, so see it in great detail. See it ==> Become an efficient Mental Antenna to receive this “version” of reality.

  1. Feel it. (emotional)

Get excited & passionate about it! How would you feel if you had it now? Feel that now! Plug into your vision with all your emotions & all your senses, as if you had it now! Involve all your senses - imagine smelling it, touching it, tasting it, etc.
Feel it ==> Become an efficient Emotional Antenna to receive this “version” of reality.

  1. Be it. (physical)

Physical action. Do it! To ground the experience. Do actions that most closely mimic the actions you “see” yourself doing in your vision. Gather and use whatever props mimic that scenario, and do a “dry run”. Doing this “make believe” physical action trains the body consciousness. This makes it “real for you now”, so the universe then delivers it to you. NOTE: This physical action does not directly cause this desired reality to manifest. Instead, this physical action creates a more precise vibration in yourself, making you a better antenna to receive it, by you becoming more aligned to the same vibration. The reality you desire already exists. You do not have to create it. You only have to receive it.
Be it ==> Become an efficient Physical Antenna to receive this “version” of reality.

In other words,

  1. See it. ===> Become a precise mental antenna to “receive” that version of reality.
  2. Feel it. ===> Become a precise emotional antenna to “receive” that version of reality.
  3. Be it. ===> Become a precise physical antenna to “receive” that version of reality.

Visualization - how to do it effectively

This explains the Mechanics of how to effectively manifest what you are visualizing and wishing to manifest.

Remember:
The physical mind is not designed to know HOW something will manifest, or what it will look like when it does manifest.
But you can use it to decide what you want.

Your visualization is simply a symbolic representation of a state of being, whose purpose is to generate Excitement within you. But it may not manifest in the form you are visualizing.

Step 1:
You create the most vivid visualization of what you want, that you can.
And you get really excited about it.

Step 2:
You GIVE that visualization and that excited state of being to your Higher Mind.

Step 3:
Then, you TOTALLY LET-GO of any need, that it manifest in the form you were visualizing.
(But you do “hold on” to that excited state of being associated with that visualization.)

So you Let-Go that visualization, and Give the visualization and that excited state of being to your Higher Mind - which does understand HOW that can come into manifestation.

This way, your Higher Mind can produce for you a manifestation that does correspond with the excited state you gave it, but which, in specific form, is much better and more profound than the details of your specific visualization. Your Higher Mind can produce a manifestation that is far greater than what the human mind can ever imagine - by a long shot!

So don’t prevent your Higher Mind from giving you something profoundly-better than your visualization, by insisting that it " must " manifest only in the form you are visualizing.

Remember to Give the visualization to your Higher Mind, and then Let go of the need that it manifest in the form you were visualizing.

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Visualization

The recommended way to use Visualization, to get some preferred reality, is:

  1. Visualize the preferred reality within your Visualization intently.
  2. This gets you into an EXCITED STATE (from imagining you already have it).
  3. Then totally DROP that visaulization and absolutely do not insist that it manifest in that particular form.
  4. Your Higher Self then tunes into your EXCITED STATE and your desire,
    and then begins working on getting for you a WAY BETTER outcome than anything you could have ever imagined.

NOTE:
By hanging on to your Visualization and insisting that the outcome be in that form, you are LIMITING the optimum outcome, and preventing your Higher Self from bringing you an outcome that is FAR SUPERIOR to anything that you could have ever imagined or thought of. And it can bring it to you in an easier and faster way, than the particular outcome you were insisting on.

Follow your excitement!
Finding your Purpose in Life.

Act on it! Excitement is caused by a resonance with your Higher Self. Excitement is a “sign” that the activity you are contemplating is aligned with your Higher Self, and this alignment is what causes the excitement. This naturally leads you to what you are “meant” to be doing - what your Soul “hopes” your free-will chooses to do. This is your “Purpose”. So this is the simple yet effortlessly-effective way to find your life’s “Purpose”.

Mechanically, “excitement” is a high state of resonant-excitation that occurs when the Thinking+Intentions of the physical dimension self are sharply aligned with the Thinking+Intentions of its own Higher Self.

So excitement serves as a “compass” - to let you know when you’re “on course” - when you are doing or contemplating doing exactly what your Higher Self would just love to have you be doing.

When you follow your excitement, and do what excites you, this means that :

1. This activity is “you” (truly aligned with your Soul).
2. Because it is “you”, this activity is effortless for you.
3. Because it is “you”, the universe will support you (including financial support) to continue doing this, in progressively more expanding ways.

Following your excitement is following the “signs” your Higher Self is giving - to lead you in the most DIRECT way possible to what it “hopes” your free-will will choose to do, which is the same as your life’s Purpose. The catch is this:

Even if following your excitement means doing something seemingly trivial and unprofound, even then, just do it!

Because proceeding towards doing this seemingly mundane thing, might lead you to meet someone, or discover something, that is just “perfect” for furthering your Life’s purpose.

IMPORTANT consideration:
“Follow your Excitement - with INTEGRITY”. Bashar defines “integrity” to mean, NOT any particular moral standard, but instead: Realizing that everything is a whole (integer), and you are one with the whole. And therefore, (Golden Rule), you treat everyone and everything with the same respect and consideration and care that you would want them to treat you.

“Follow your Excitement - with INTEGRITY”.

1. Of all the available options, ACT on the option that has the highest Excitement, that you can do with Integrity.

2. Act on this option as best as you - to your fullest ability. When you can act no further on this option, then (once again), ACT on the option that then has the highest Excitement, that you can do with Integrity.

3. Do not insist that the outcome be what you expect or intend it to be!
(Why? Because your Higher Self might have a much better result in mind. But you would be preventing this nicer outcome, if you insist on the outcome you expect.)

If you act in this manner, you will end up doing your life’s purpose.
If you have something to give in the reality you are creating, there are people ready to receive it.
Whatever you are offering, there will be people receptive & appreciative of that offering.

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Interesting DEFINITIONS
abundance - “The ability to do what you need to do, when you need to do it.”
(Money is merely one of innumerable ways to express & experience abundance.)

anxiety - “Anxiety” is the energy of excitement, but filtered through a belief in something undesirable or unpreferred. (“Anxiety” is “Excitement” with a negative judgement.
Remove the negative judgment, and you have “Excitement”. )

discernment
&
judgment - “Discernment” is selecting and acting on your preference from the available options.
“Judgment” is going a step-further and invalidating what you do NOT prefer.
The recommendation is to act according to preference,
without invalidating what you do not prefer.

doubt - “Doubt” is not a lack of trust. It is a TOTAL TRUST in an undesirable or unpreferred reality. You do not need to “develop” trust, since you are always 100% TOTALLY TRUSTING in SOMETHING. You only need to FOCUS your trust on a preferred reality, rather than an unpreferred one.

ego - Ego is that part of our consciousness whose job is to keep us FOCUSED on this physical incarnation. Just like binoculars allow you to see things in the distance with much more vivid detail, likewise, the ego allows you to FOCUS more clearly on what’s happening in your physical incarnation. That is its ONLY job. If you give it more tasks to do (like being in control), then it gets resentment, and you end up with the negative ego.

excitement - “Excitement” is the energy that occurs when one is in resonance with their own Higher Self. This is a “signal” from your Higher Self (which always honors your free will) to encourage you to act or move in a particular direction. “Excitement” can therefore be used as a “compass heading” to move & act in the direction that your Higher Self hopes you will move - for your highest joy. If you “follow your excitement” consistently, you will end up fulfilling your Life’s Purpose.

failure - “Failure” is giving up on achieving your Goal.
As long as you do not give up on your Intention, failure has not occurred.

fear - “Fear” is the emotional reaction to believing in a reality (likely outcome) that you strongly do not prefer. You can use fear to your advantage, by:
#1. Fully “owning” it and acknowledging that you have it.
#2. Asking yourself “What must I be believing to have this fear?”
#3. Once you discover that belief, you can ACKNOWLEDGE that you have it.
#4. And then REPLACE it with the opposite belief, at which point the fear quickly dissipates.

forgiveness - “Forgiveness” is a “non-action”. It is the cessation or stopping of the continuous action of continuously blaming someone for something. This continuous blaming is also an
energy-leak. Since blaming requires energy, and forgiveness is the stopping of this action of blaming, it actually is easier to forgive, than to continuously be blaming another.
So be lazy & have more energy! Forgive!

happiness - “Happiness” is the result of internally DECIDING to be happy -
regardless of external events
(as opposed to happiness being the result of desireable external events).
“Happiness” also comes from following & acting on your Excitement.

hope - “Hope” implies doubt. It suggests you are holding a belief that there is a significant possibility of NOT achieving your desired goal or outcome.

integrity - “Integrity” comes from “integer” which originates from “one”. When a person realizes that “everything” is really just ONE thing, and that they are an integral part of this ONE thing, then they instinctively & automatically & spontaneously treat everyone & everything with the care, respect, love, and consideration, which which they would like to be treated. This is “integrity”.

negative - That which separates, segregates, or polarizes.
(as opposed to “positive”, which unifies & integrates)

pain - Resistance to the natural Self.

positive - That which unifies, and integrates, and creates oneness.
(as opposed to “negative”, which creates separation)

synchronicity - The manner in which the Oneness of Creation expresses
{within the constraints of any time/space matrix/hologram) that:
everything is connected to everything -

trust - Trust is the same as “what you believe”.
You are always totally trusting in something. There is never a lack of trust.
So the only relevant issue is: WHERE are you placing your trust?
Accordingly, “doubt” is not a lack of trust, but
a TOTAL trust in something you do not prefer.

try - “Try” implies you are keeping the back-door open for failure. The word “try” presumes you are believing there is a large possibility of NOT achieving your goal.
“Trying to do” something is totally different than “doing” that something.

unconditional love - Unconditional Love is
the granting of validity, for all beings and everything to exist - just as they are.

worthiness - The mere fact that you EXIST makes you worthy of anything you want.
Your EXISTENCE and WORTHINESS are more fundamental than any beliefs you may have about them. (They exist prior to any beliefs about them.)

here is the source for the last several posts.

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Abundance of money is evil.

Anxiety feels like boiling blood that is there due to deep seated emotions locked away and nothing exciting is felt until the wave had passed.

My father told me to ask myself “where is the evidence?”

People who experienced panic attacks without a clear explanation of trigger would know what that sort of question or something similar when relating to their anxiety.