For the purposes of this post, I’m not going to define what problematic behavior is. Different people have different opinions, and it is up to the various communities to define what is unacceptable behavior.
However, there is a larger meta-community that is EVE Online itself. And another one that is just people. While morality is not identical from region to region there are common morals and common unacceptable behavior. E.g. I don’t know of a single culture where it’s okay to piss on the table if you don’t like the meal you were just served.
So, as a larger, community when there is a problem player who is acting like a jerk. What responsibility does that player have to change? Is there any? Are the people who are being harassed by the jerk solely responsible for changing behavior?
When it comes to extended harassment or bullying, the bully typically derives satisfaction from controlling the actions of their victims. If the victim has to avoid certain areas, recite certain words or simply think about the bully all the time, then the bully has successfully controlled their victim. The victim’s altered behavior (e.g. blocking the bully) is the bully’s prize. It seems like asking the person being harassed to change their behavior doesn’t actually stop the bully, but encourages them. For some, having their victim rage quit is the ultimate win. Or for some, having their victim lose it and go into an incoherent rage while they remain calm and collected is the ultimate form of control – “I can literally make you lose it whenever I want.” It seems CCP has done a woefully inept job of dealing with problem players.
P.S. Given that CCP has stated on multiple times that ganking, by itself, is not a form of griefing or harassment, please do not turn this into a pro- or anti-ganking thread.